Just about everyone on planet earth has sounded off on “Operation Varsity Blues,” a detailed effort on the part of wealthy parents to manipulate their children’s chances of entering elite universities via bribes, the retroactive manipulation of SAT scores, and a false declaration of athletic status. Fuller House star Lori Loughlin and Academy Award nominee Felicity Huffman are both in jail as a result. I have nothing new to say of any value, but I would like to point out a video with Lori Loughlin and her daughter which initially troubled me, and it has now been put into a greater context.
In the age of #MeToo and #TimesUp, my eyes have opened to sexism in the media, and one such realization lies in the fact that men are often way more dramatic and messy than women. Such is the case with Future, who took aim at Seattle Seahawks player and husband of Ciara (his baby mamma), Russell Wilson, during a Beats1 interview radio interview saying:
[Wilson] do exactly what she tell him to do… He not tellin’ her, ‘Chill out with that on the internet. Don’t even talk to him. I’m your husband! You better not even bring Future’s name up!’ If that was me, she couldn’t even bring his name up. She know that. She couldn’t even bring her exes’ names up.
It’s interesting that Future recently said the hardest part of monogamy is a woman’s jealousy when his own statement about Ciara confirmed his hypocrisy. Any man that imposes parameters on what his wife/girlfriend can and cannot say is inherently possessive and jealous. That being said, Ciara and Wilson’s response seems even less mature. Posting a picture of Future’s son on social media is an innate jab wrapped in a pretty bow. If Future has inherent issues with his access/role in his son’s life, keep it private. In fact, keep the entire thing private.
KRIS JENNER MISLED US
When Kris Jenner teased an open and honest confession from Kendall Jenner, I assumed it was about her crippling anxiety disorder. In the past, Keeping Up With the Kardashians has alluded to Kendall’s mental health issues, which greatly impacted her modeling career, because the star was physically unable to even get on planes without shaking and losing her breath. She also suffers from sleep paralysis, a disorder that I can personally say is terrifying.
KENDALL IS NOT A KARDASHIAN
While I’ve come to terms with the Kardashian machine, Kendall Jenner perhaps cannot say the same. She’s a bit of an outcast, with a personality that is clearly different than her siblings. She’s admittedly more of a tomboy and although she has made some “on brand” provocative red-carpet appearances, it doesn’t seem to quite fit with her personality. She’s just a little too cool for that, and I’m not sure Kris Jenner got that memo.
THE WORD “BRAVE” SHOULD NOT BE THROWN AROUND
White t-shirt, straight-to-the-camera commercials are nothing new. They are meant to illicit a relatable nature, as if the audience and the speaker are friends. But that doesn’t quite work here. If you’re going to get money for a commercial, just own it. Don’t use the word “brave,” especially during the #MeToo movement. And if it’s true that Kendall Jenner is upset/depressed over the backlash, I feel sorry for her given her aforementioned mental health issues. That being said, she should know better. If the Pepsi debacle wasn’t a lesson to change her advisors, what is?
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I’m so proud of my darling @KendallJenner for being so brave and vulnerable. Seeing you share your most raw story in order to make a positive impact for so many people and help foster a positive dialogue is a testament to the incredible woman you’ve become. Make sure to watch Kendall’s Twitter on Sunday night to find out what I’m talking about and be prepared to be moved. #bethechange #shareyourstory #changetheconversation #proudmom #finallyasolution #authenticity #mydaughterinspiresme #getready
Forgive me for minimizing Kevin Hart’s Oscar debacle with a petty analogy, but the man reminds me of every guy I’ve ever dated who is allergic to apologizing. So allergic in fact that he says things like, “I’m sorry IF I offended you,” or “How many times are you going to mention the same thing. I’ve already apologized.” Lastly, “Can’t we just focus on the future, not the past?” When combined with fame, social media, and the a rightfully offended LGBTQ+ community, it gets even worse.Keep on reading!
Here’s the thing about Billy Bush. We never knew much about his personality. He was on some breezy shows with superficial content, which did not require much of his own input. Much like Ryan Seacrest, his job was to move things along in a seamless fashion, and to provide celebrities with an easy forum to promote their content. So when a clip between Billy Bush and Donald Trump gave us a window into Bush’s personality for the first time, he was sunk. There simply wasn’t enough data for push up against this man’s new image, and without that, there’s little to no hope of a career cleanse. Many have pointed out that Donald Trump became President and Billy Bush became unemployed, but I’d need a much longer post to explain how Trump got elected. For now, let’s stick to Billy.
BILLY BUSH’S FIRST INTERVIEW
In a recent interview with The Hollywood Reporter, Bush is clear about his regret, and he blames his inability to change the subject with Trump to not having the necessary “strength of character.” He claims that the experience left him “gutted” and that he’s done an extensive amount of soul searching in its wake, which includes time with Tony Robbins and a spiritual retreat. He also reminds us that he’s raising three daughters whom he had to answer to, saying:
I’ve come out of this with a deeper understanding of how women can connect to the feeling of having to fight extra hard for an even playing field. The ground isn’t even. Maybe it’s improving, but still it isn’t even. When a woman watches that tape — and this is what really hit me — they may be asking themselves, “Is that what happens when I walk out of a room? When I walk out of a meeting, is that what they’re saying about me? Are they sizing me up?” I can’t live with that. If a moment like that arose again, I would shut it down quickly. I am in the women-raising business, exclusively. I have three daughters — Mary, Lillie, Josie — and I care very much about the world and the people they encounter.
SHOULD WE FORGIVE BILLY BUSH?
So should we forgive Billy Bush, and is this enough? Though it might be a controversial claim, I like this version of Bush a little better. For starters, I am fundamentally put off by press robots with no personality, and seeing a man at his knees, begging for forgiveness, is good enough to take him out of that space. I believe he’s contrite, and if it took losing a job to do that — then fine. A man’s livelihood is often tied to his job, and even though Billy Bush walked away from all of this a very rich man, he also walked away unemployed. I also believe him when he likens the conversation in question to Andrew Dice Clay. He likely thought Trump was being outrageous for shock value, rather than an actual account of how he physically and literally “grabs women by the pussy.” According to Bush, “if [he] had thought for a minute that there was a grown man detailing his sexual assault strategy to [him], [he’d] have called the FBI.” The issue; however, will always lie in Bush encouraging the host to physically hug Trump AFTER Trump made those comments. That moves his participation from passive to active, which is the key problem. I’d guess Bush knows that, and he does not need me to remind him.
WHAT WOULD YOU HAVE DONE IN THAT SITUATION?
Though even in my very young days, I’ve never let a bully win, and I’ve never let my desire to be liked overpower my integrity, I’ve certainly been guilty of saying and doing things of which I’m not proud, and the only thing that has caused substantial character growth is age, experience, and tongue-lashings of my more evolved peers. Fortunately, you’ll never know about those character digressions because I’m not a public figure, and because my peers are a select group of people I trust, not the entire world. I think Billy Bush has had enough. If all our issues left us permanently unemployed, the economy would tank.
Over the years, I’ve wavered with my support of the Kardashian Klan. For starters, it’s quite fine that they have no talent. I know plenty of people with little creative talent who value their personal life over their professional life. Most of those people might pounce on the opportunity to place cameras in their home in exchange for a hefty payday. Money is money. But if you’re going to gain fame in an entertainment industry with minimal entertainment skills, you better use that power for good. And that brings me to my current tirade of Kim Kardashian, who held an ebay auction for the Philippines typhoon victims.
Because the media follows her every move, people quickly picked up on the fact that she was only donating 10% of the proceeds to the victims, keeping the rest for herself. Kardashian finally responded to the criticism with a laughable defense, claiming “the people of the Philippines need all of our help, no matter how big or small,” and “I feel like I get criticized for any and everything I do.”
Because Kim Kardashian is not fully understanding the criticism, I will generously take the time to explain it in a kinder way than my blogging cohorts. The issue isn’t that she makes a bunch of money and only donated a small percentage of it. It’s absolutely acceptable to donate 5 dollars or 5 million dollars, no matter what your income. Help is help. The issue is that because the title of the sale claimed to donate the proceeds to the typhoon victims, it generated more interest, and a stronger desire for the public to participate. Because the actual percentage was not immediately apparent (it was in small print at the bottom of the page), it therefore appears as if Kim Kardashian is using a cause to get more money for a sale, only to restrict the donation to a mere 10%. In short, that’s deplorable. You cannot ride a cause to increase your sales and then limit the donation to the cause that generated those sales.
I fully understand that Kim Kardashian receives an inordinate amount of arbitrary criticism from a plethora of people who make it their mission to take her down. In fact, if you simply look at the comments on her instagram page, you’d have a little more sympathy for the star. But some criticism is deserved. And she cannot simply wax on with a woe-is-me rant to avoid the truth. She made a serious error with the Ebay auction, and the aftermath is deserved.