Lohan Thinks #MeToo Accusers Are Weak — Why We Shouldn’t Respond With An Attack

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It’s of no surprise that Lindsay Lohan thinks the #MeToo movement is filled with “weak” people, considering Lohan herself has yet to give an honest, authentic interview about her own troubled past. In fact, her “reality” show for OWN was almost unwatchable for that reason, because each and every time Lohan had a difficult day and simply could not get out of bed, she refused to film and only appeared back on camera when she felt bright and shiny again. Her disturbing “friends” enabled her, and when her life coach confronted her about relapsing on camera, that life coach was immediately fired. Lohan scolded her for making a private moment public, despite the fact that the show itself was meant to expose those private moments. Oprah lent her an olive branch that began with a post rehab one-on-one interview, and even that felt forced. Here’s a direct quote from Lohan’s interview with The Times:

“If it happens at that moment, you discuss it at that moment. You make it a real thing by making it a police report. I’m going to really hate myself for saying this, but I think by women speaking against all these things, it makes them look weak when they are very strong women. You have these girls who come out, who don’t even know who they are, who do it for the attention. That is taking away from the fact that it happened.”

Before bashing Lohan for her ignorant, tone-deaf comments, I’m going to simply feel sorry for her given that this is her perspective on being vulnerable. Perhaps I’m having a peaceful day, but I see no benefit on returning a sad statement with anger. When she learns the truth about vulnerability and strength, perhaps she will finally have a career comeback. Until then . . .

‪Amos Lee Plays Steamboat’s ‘Strings Music Festival’ – Debuts New Album‬

Photo by Molly McCormick

Nestled in the stunning town of Steamboat, Colorado is the Strings Music Pavilion, which showcases over 60 genre-spanning performances during the summer months. The venue houses just 569 people, which provides for a beautiful, personal experience between the audience and the artist. As a devoted Steamboat-goer since a very early age, I can safely say that the venue and concerts have only improved over the years. And given its uncompromising quality at the outset, that’s a mighty task.

For my first summer visit back to Steamboat in over a decade, I was graced with the greatness of Mr. Amos Lee. His new album, ‘A New Moon,’ will be available on August 31, 2018, and judging from what I heard up on that stage, it might be his strongest songs yet. If my math is correct, it will be the Philadelphia-born singer/songwriter’s seventh studio album.

Lee’s stage presence actually surprised me. For someone whose most notable tracks are both heartbreaking and low tempo, I expected a much darker and more intense performance (think Ray Lamontagne). Instead, I got a playful personality who seemed to truly enjoy engaging the audience while simultaneously jamming with his best mates. As for the audience, it’s worth noting that I’ve been to a lot of concerts, and this might be the first time I’ve seen such a rabid group of girls determined to get the singer’s attention. Either Amos was doing something seriously right or seriously wrong to garner that kind of flirting frenzy (I can’t decide). It’s not often that I get to witness such greatness from the third row of such an intimate venue, and it’s an experience I won’t soon forget. To catch Amos on tour, visit his website. It is well worth it.

Jennifer Aniston Talks Divorce — Insists She’s Not “Heartbroken”

Unfortunately for Jennifer Aniston, she’s had quite a few breakups in the public eye. Were she to date a banker from Iowa, she’d avoid the minefield of questions about Brad Pitt, Vince Vaughn, John Mayer, and Justin Theroux. Instead, she’s forced to not only defend her relationships, but to also defend the end of those relationships. And in an effort to fight against the media’s unfair narrative of Aniston as the sad, lonely girl who can’t keep a man, she’s pushed up against it with a consistent, opposing strategy. In a new interview with InStyle, Aniston insists she not heartbroken. This is not the first time she’s taken this route, and despite my love for all things Aniston, her comment begs an even more important question. What’s so wrong with being heartbroken, anyways?

Many celebrities air their dirty laundry in public, and it’s an act I often question. It is certainly no one’s right to know the personal business of our public figures, but broad-sweeping generalizations about divorce, breakups, grief, etc. are an easy way to relate without fully fanning out the deck. For example, when discussing her divorce from Ryan Phillippe, Reese Witherspoon told Elle Magazine, “Right around Christmas time I was sitting in a parking lot and I felt like I just couldn’t get out of the car. . . . I thought, ‘Okay, half of the parking lot has dealt with this. More than half of the parking lot has dealt with this.  Okay, let’s make it a little bigger. Half of this city has dealt with this. Okay, let’s make it a little bigger – half of this country, until I finally got out of the car.’”  Conversely, Phillippe told Man About Town Magazine, “After the divorce, I was a physical wreck. I wanted to die. I was ready to kill myself. I was not taking care of myself at all. I would wake up and cry and vomit.” I use these examples to illustrate that A-listers like Aniston need not always take the strong-girl route. Though she might not in fact be heartbroken, she certainly has the right to feel sad and lonely without being dubbed the “sad, lonely” girl.

 

Michelle Williams’ Vanity Fair Interview: New Love, Equal Pay, and Heath Ledger

Famous people often document their personal struggles in hopes of helping the masses, and given that they are so far away from my own life, it’s something I simply don’t relate to. But Michelle Williams is the exception. Her statements on grief have been immensely helpful, most notably when she discussed her torment about leaving the town house she once shared with her late love Heath Ledger. Of the painful decision, she said, “At that time, I was inconsolable, because I felt, How will he be able to find us? This is where we lived, and he won’t know where we are. And now I can’t believe I thought that. Maybe what’s making me cry is I feel sad for the person who thought he won’t be able to locate [us].” Having left a job after my boss/best friend passed away and thinking almost the EXACT same thing, I was extremely grateful for her her honesty. She also said, “Grief is like a moving river, so that’s what I mean by it’s always changing. It’s a strange thing to say because I’m at heart an optimistic person, but I would say in some ways it just gets worse. It’s just that the more time that passes, the more you miss someone.”

In a recent interview with Vanity Fair, Williams once again solidified all the reasons I love her. For starters, she discussed the dread of dressing up for interviews, which is something I never noticed until expressly pointed out. As women, we often read interviews that begin by discussing a woman’s appearance, and in this new world, those days are hopefully over. Williams also addressed that infamous pay gap between her and Mark Wahlberg for ‘All the Money in the World,’ saying, “I was one woman by myself and I couldn’t do anything about it. But in the wolf pack—the phrase Abby Wambach uses—things are possible. And that’s really what it took: somebody who was at the head of the pack, Jessica Chastain, pulling me up with her, and then all these other women surrounding me, teaching me.” Though I was not aware that the story only gained traction after Chastain’s tweet (having been originally printed months prior), it’s certainly no surprise that Chastain led the movement. It is; however, surprising that Williams stayed with her longtime agent, but she is apparently very forgiving, having said she believes in “second chances.” Hopefully those suits at Hollywood’s top studio learned a thing or two also.

Finally, the intensely private Williams discusses her new marriage to musician Phil Elverum, hoping to help women in similar circumstances who might have given up on the hope of finding love. To put it simply, she says, “I am finally loved by someone who makes me feel free.”

For more of her beautiful interview, visit VANITY FAIR.

Pete Davidson is a Girlfriend Re-Gifter, And He Wants You To Believe It’s Okay

At thirteen years old, I received a Bat-Mitzvah gift from a good friend. It was a heart-shaped red stone on a black lanyard, and it felt special. It was later revealed that his mother picked out the gift, and that he gifted the exact same heart to every one of his female friends for their Bat Mitzvah. Did that make it less special? I can only imagine how I’d feel if the gift actually came from a boyfriend, and said boyfriend gave the same symbol of his love to every girl he dated. Such is the case with Pete Davidson, whose scream-from-the-rooftops whirlwind affair with Ariana Grande has made the news just about everywhere. Not only is Davidson inked with a Grande-inspired tattoo (a gesture of love previously given to his ex Cazzie David), but he also gave Grande the necklace his father wore the day he died in the Sept. 11, 2001 terrorist attacks. Fans quickly noticed that Cazzie was once photographed wearing the same necklace, at which point Davidson claimed that Cazzie’s was simply a replica, and Grande has the real thing.

For starters, does it matter if the gift Cazzie wore is a replica? The thought is exactly the same. It’s ludicrous to argue that distinction, and it’s also a reach. Second, it’s extremely disrespectful to Cazzie David to publicly proclaim the distinction at all. It’s akin to saying, “That former gesture was meaningless and I’m WAY MORE in love now than I was then.” As someone who has been in serious, long-term, meaningful relationships that did not last, I would never undermine their significance with a comparison. Furthermore if Pete once loved Cazzie and now callously demeans their connection, whose to say he won’t do it again? A man is judged by his exit, Mr. Davidson. Also, if you feel you have something to prove, perhaps you should ask yourself why.

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Dispatch Releases New Song — Listen Now

There is a soft spot in my heart for Dispatch, given that the indie band made the rounds in my college, and since they’re still playing to sold out crowds, their new song is worth mentioning. With their first album in five years. ‘America, Location 12,’ they will be releasing  a special song every couple of weeks throughout the summer and the collection will culminate as one bundle after the last song is out later this year.  Listen to their latest release below, and catch them on tour soon.

X Factor’s Louis Walsh Sexually Harasses Mel B on Live Television, and No One Helps

The deranged entitlement of Louis Walsh makes me physically ill. In a newly resurfaced video, the former X Factor judge can be seen openly grabbing Mel B.’s ass during an interview, and when she openly confronts him, he smugly smiles followed by a joke from Simon Cowell about her safety. Though I generally try to steer clear of blaming bystanders, this is just too gross to ignore. Simon seems disturbed, but I’d like to know if Walsh was ever taken to task for sexual harassment. As for Mel B., I applaud her standing up for herself, and it’s too bad no one else joined.

Leave No Trace Movie Review — Survival Isn’t Just Physical

If there was a political message bubbling below the surface of Leave No Trace, I certainly was not looking for it. For me, this was first and foremost a father/daughter story about love and pain. The beautiful indie drama directed by Debra Granik (Winter’s Bone) centers on a teenage girl named Tom (Thomasin McKenzie) and her veteran father Will (Ben Foster), who live off the grid for a reason that is not immediately apparent. When they are caught in a nature preserve of Forest Park (just west of Portland), social services treats them with both compassion and structure, the latter of which Will is loathed to accept. Tom has an easier time, especially when she socializes with children her own age. Though she subtlely expresses her enjoyment to her father, he simply can’t adjust, and away they go again. We won’t ever know the full backstory of these two, and that’s okay. The audience is entrusted to fill in the gaps, and we have all the information we need to know these characters.

There are a few reviews of this film that suggest it’s about much more than meets the eye. First, should we question our social norms? Maybe. But this isn’t about that. There’s one thing separating both Will and Tom in my opinion, and it isn’t social norms. It’s people and expectations. He can’t expend the mental energy required to interact with others and follow guidelines, unlike Tom. Perhaps that’s a far too simplistic way of viewing his struggle, but isolation seems to be the anecdote for his angst. Though it would be nice to say his love for his daughter knows no bounds, it isn’t true. He’s paralyzed by demons that the love for his daughter cannot fix. Tom’s final decision is more about empathy than a typical teenage/parent schism, and it’s beautifully executed by both actors.

It has also been suggested that this film shines a spotlight on PTSD and the way in which America treats its Veterans. Again, if that’s the case, I did not see it. If anything, it shines a spotlight on the power of depression. For Will to recover, he’d not only need the means, he’d need the motivation, and he simply doesn’t have it. The generosity of others can’t outweigh his personal peril, and as we’ve seen from many recent, tragic suicides, the love for one’s child is also not enough. Mental illness is a beast that only the sufferers fully understand. And speaking of that generosity, it’s also been mentioned that this is a story of white privilege. If Will were a black man, would he have been gifted with such generosity? It’s certainly a reasonable question we should all ask ourselves when a neighbor is in need of help.

If there’s a deeper meaning at play here, it’s to celebrate the earth and to acknowledge that sometimes the littlest of things are enough. Will and Tom could live off the earth, but should they? Indulgences are okay but beware of the pendulum swinging too far in either direction.

James Corden and Paul McCartney Deliver the Best Carpool Karaoke Ever

There’s a lot to be learned about Paul McCartney, aside from the obvious. For starters, there’s no bigger star alive today, and the man is still both humble and grateful. His love for his craft is as present as ever, as the legendary Beatle still tours and releases great songs for his rabid fan base. In fact, he collects new fans every minute, as you can see from the video below from James Corden’s Carpool Karaoke, which features age-spanning devotees. Though I’m not a loyal watcher of Corden’s Carpool shtick, this one is worth watching.

It’s worth noting that Corden is a genius. Were I too gain fame on any level, aside from all that charity stuff, I’d use it to meet the legends, and if I could sing, I’d certainly swim in the opportunity to sing WITH them. I can’t think of a more out-of-body joy than what Corden got to experience.

Watch below.

Demi Lovato Reveals She is No Longer “Sober” In New Track

Demi Lovato released a cuttingly honest track about her struggle with addiction, revealing that she is no longer “Sober.” It includes apologies to her friends, family, and fans, and Lovato termed it “My Truth” on Instagram. She’s been bravely honest about her story, and this is part of it. Listen below.